I have a good friend who has a son. He is her oldest and sounds like such a cool kid. She tells me stories of his fishing trips and sports games. She talks about how he does in school and uncomfortable stories of being a mother to a son...stories she wouldn't give up for the world. (If you are reading this, Friend, you know who you are!) This young man is a mama's boy and he is wrapped around his Mama's finger. You can see if on her face when she talks about him! I guess that as I think about sticky little hands, hunting trips with dad or grandpa, short hair and parts I'm not so familiar with I will think about my friend and her son. I will hope that someday my son and I will have that same kind of relationship.
Friday, July 29, 2011
It's a boy!
I'm sure you read that title and thought....we already know that! But I can't tell you the number of times in one day that I think to myself "It's a boy!" What in the world am I going to do with a boy?!?!?! I can honestly admit that I NEVER picture our RedFisch to be a boy!! Everyone tells me you'll figure it out! and boys are so much easier than girls! But don't they understand that I AM a girl so I feel like I understood how to be a mom to a little girl. I know how to fix a girl's hair, I know how to dress a little girl, I know about hurt feelings and fights between little girls, and let's face it....I know about ALL the important parts of a little girl....not a boy! I've never been into sports, I hate hunting, getting dirty and sweaty is not my cup of tea, and I can't help but wander towards the baby girl's clothes EVERY time I go shopping!
Our Growing "Belly"
The baby is due in 8 weeks and 4 days. Wow. The time is really just flying by. As I chase this puppy around, I have asked myself MORE than a few times, What am I going to do with a five month old puppy and an infant!?!?!?! I guess I could have worse things to worry about! :)
This week I was able to talk to our adoption agent about the hospital plan that our birth mother has put together. The hospital plan is the plan she writes to let us, the agency, and the lawyers know how she would like things to be handled at the hospital before, during, and after the birth. (As far as we know our first birth mom never even filled this plan out, so this was exciting for us!) The highlights of the plan....birth mom wants us to be notified immediately when she goes into labor, she would like to be notified as soon as we get to the hospital and she wants us to have "unlimited" access to the baby once it is born although she does not want us in the room for the birth. Our adoption agent told us that more than likely we will have our own hospital room on the labor and delivery floor where they will bring him to us so we have a private space to spend time with him. We also now have the name of the hospital where she will give birth. The may not seem like much, but to us...it was an exciting piece of information. We now know exactly where our son will be born. We could look it up online, find hotels nearby, and figure out exactly how much time Google Maps says it will take us to get there. You, humble blog readers, must remember that I don't have a growing belly that reminds us daily of what is about to happen. We don't have showers to go to or a nursery to decorate that keeps the excitement bubbling up inside of us. These little bits of information we get from the adoption agency are the only things we have that spark that excitement and make us think about what is just around the corner. Our growing "belly" looks much, much different than most expecting families but its a journey just the same.
This week I was able to talk to our adoption agent about the hospital plan that our birth mother has put together. The hospital plan is the plan she writes to let us, the agency, and the lawyers know how she would like things to be handled at the hospital before, during, and after the birth. (As far as we know our first birth mom never even filled this plan out, so this was exciting for us!) The highlights of the plan....birth mom wants us to be notified immediately when she goes into labor, she would like to be notified as soon as we get to the hospital and she wants us to have "unlimited" access to the baby once it is born although she does not want us in the room for the birth. Our adoption agent told us that more than likely we will have our own hospital room on the labor and delivery floor where they will bring him to us so we have a private space to spend time with him. We also now have the name of the hospital where she will give birth. The may not seem like much, but to us...it was an exciting piece of information. We now know exactly where our son will be born. We could look it up online, find hotels nearby, and figure out exactly how much time Google Maps says it will take us to get there. You, humble blog readers, must remember that I don't have a growing belly that reminds us daily of what is about to happen. We don't have showers to go to or a nursery to decorate that keeps the excitement bubbling up inside of us. These little bits of information we get from the adoption agency are the only things we have that spark that excitement and make us think about what is just around the corner. Our growing "belly" looks much, much different than most expecting families but its a journey just the same.
Monday, July 18, 2011
Tick...Tock....Tick...Tock....
I keep saying to Carlie, "I really need to blog something!" But there just isn't much to tell! Things are going fine for now. Communication with birth mom is "light" but consistent, more texting than phone calls but honestly, I think I prefer it that way. We are told she still wants us to come visit for a doctor's appointment but timeliness and scheduling aren't exactly turning out to be her strengths. Carlie and I are not pushing this trip. Of course, we'd LOVE to go and see an ultrasound, meet the doctor who will be delivering Max, and meet birth mom. But if it doesn't work out, that is ok too. We'd just like to know if we need to plan the trip! As we are learning...over and over and over again....we can't always plan everything!!
We are doing well. Our house went back on the market yesterday. We have the perfect little house picked out and I have all of these dreams for the nursery....but the likelihood is that our place is not going to sell. It is so frustrating! Later this year, when we are back with Max and if our townhome still hasn't sold, we plan to rent it out and hope for the best! God's timing has never been my timing and why I think it will coincide this time I don't know! But his time is also always better than mine, so who am I to question any of this!
We may not be able to decorate a nursery yet, but I have been unable to resist buying baby clothes!! I just can't help it! They are so tiny and adorable...and everything can be returned, right?? Right! And I'm not the only one guilty of this. It sounds to me like my mom and sister are just as guilty as I am....it sounds like they have a small closet started for Max already! So...we talk about his arrival, wonder what those first few days will be like, TRY not to buy too many things, and wait. His due date is 10 weeks away and I know it is just going to fly by. School starts soon and that will take up a lot of my time and give me something else to think about! :)
We are doing well. Our house went back on the market yesterday. We have the perfect little house picked out and I have all of these dreams for the nursery....but the likelihood is that our place is not going to sell. It is so frustrating! Later this year, when we are back with Max and if our townhome still hasn't sold, we plan to rent it out and hope for the best! God's timing has never been my timing and why I think it will coincide this time I don't know! But his time is also always better than mine, so who am I to question any of this!
We may not be able to decorate a nursery yet, but I have been unable to resist buying baby clothes!! I just can't help it! They are so tiny and adorable...and everything can be returned, right?? Right! And I'm not the only one guilty of this. It sounds to me like my mom and sister are just as guilty as I am....it sounds like they have a small closet started for Max already! So...we talk about his arrival, wonder what those first few days will be like, TRY not to buy too many things, and wait. His due date is 10 weeks away and I know it is just going to fly by. School starts soon and that will take up a lot of my time and give me something else to think about! :)
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